‘You are the only one that can allow yourself to get triggered’ is not an easy concept to accept.  

Life constantly throws circumstances our way that are completely out of our control that may come with a triggering effect, and it’s natural to respond in anger or frustration or sadness.  

In this episode, I share three ways to respond to triggering events and how life-changing it can be to know you are the only person who can trigger yourself no matter the situation.  

3 Suggestions for when you’re triggered: 

1-Take a break from the situation. Give yourself time to really look at the components of the situation and ask, “Why does that bother me?” You will most likely realize it has nothing to do with the triggering action.  

2-Keep it to yourself. Don’t tell anyone about why you’re triggered if you haven’t taken time to understand why you’re bothered. You will only justify to them why you’re upset and you could potentially create tension in a friendship if they don’t have all sides of the story.  

3-Understand that no one else has control over you. No one else can trigger you but yourself. Let yourself live in this space of understanding and ease that you get to control how you respond to situations.   

I hope this provides some guidance so you’ll remember the power you have within the next time you feel triggered.  

In this episode, you’ll also hear: 

• Examining the individual components of a triggering situation  
• How sharing our negative experiences creates more negativity  
• The freedom of realizing no one can trigger you but yourself   

Must-listen moments:  

[00:09:57] We are the only ones that can trigger ourselves. If we put it into that context, if we say to ourselves, I am the only one that can trigger myself, it becomes absolutely magical because then no one and no circumstances outside of yourself can bother you. 

[00:12:41] If you get triggered, take a look at yourself. Take a look at your own emotions, your own feelings towards the different components of the situation. Really ask yourself, what is it about this situation that bothered me? 

[00:13:23] When you tell your friends, then it takes time out of maybe whatever good mood they were in, and now they’re kind of down because this bad thing happened to you that bothered you, and they love you and care about you…wait a minute or two before you share the story with someone else. 

 
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